This week I wanted to delve into the topic of Human Connection and share and write about why meaningful bonds with others are crucial for our well-being. It is a known fact that human beings need and thrive from connection. Looking at connection on an evolutionary level it is the starting point of the human race. Without connection to others there wouldn’t of been reproduction and our species would not of continued. But when delving into connection on a deeper level it shows us that we need human connection in order to flourish emotionally and spiritually. Think about babies; It isn’t enough for them to just be fed nourishment, they need love, attention, care, bonding, touch, familiar people’s time and their presence. When babies are given all of these things (human connection) they start to thrive and flourish on an emotional and spiritual level… their self-compassion, self-worth and self-esteem building and growing. All of this connection as a baby, child and teenager then leads to behaviours that support them as an adult being able to fully thrive in life and not just survive. So meaningful bonds and connection with others is a fundamental part of flourishing in life.A ‘meaningful’ connection could be interpreted in different ways in people’s minds. However even though we all might view this differently, simply put a ‘meaningful’ connection is a connection with meaning. For me a connection with meaning is to feel a strong connection to others from a place of truth and authenticity and to communicate openly and from the heart. So the opposite of this would be a non-meaningful connection and if other people just simply aren’t present or available. For example; the person might be sat right there and it might look like there is a connection but when you really observe nobody’s really home (disinterested, disengaged etc…)
If you look around perhaps when you next eat out or on your commute take a look around you. I bet you will notice that there is alot of non-meaningful connections going on. In the time in our lives right now alot of people live like this. Social media for instance is a great example…it feels like you’re having a connection or a relationship with people you engage with but alot of the time it is mostly on a ‘one-way street’ or another example is; you could be present with somebody but one person seems alot more interested on what’s on their piece of technology so switches off from the present connection. Technology can have the perception of connection but it isn’t always meaningful or deeply felt. I’m not being negative about technology and social media as it can be extremely useful and supportive when used in a sincere way but you do see alot of non-meaningful connections from it too and that’s the point that I’m trying to make.
How To Find A Meaningful Connection
If your looking for a meaningful connection then it’s important to remember that it takes time to find and build a proper bond, so it needs patience and nurturing. But here’s a few useful tips that will hopefully help to set you in the right direction…
- Take some time out to think about what kind of connection you really want in your life, also be clear on what your willing and ready to commit to finding. Once you know where your head is at with that then do some research and find some places where there will be the types of people who you are looking for with the same interests in which you want to connect on.
- Commit to saying what you really mean and mean what you say when you speak. This is a really important tip to remember as good communication is what meaningful bonds thrive with.
- Open up about how you feel with others who themselves are wanting and willing to listen. Ensure you are asking how others feel too and with genuine interest (a meaningful connection is never based on a ‘one way street.’)
- Be willing to show your vulnerable side too and allow others to be vulnerable around you also. It’s not a sign of weakness to show your vulnerability…we are all human beings so we all have that side to us and you can actually deepen a connection through showing this side of you.
- Start prioritising your meaningful connections. Ensure that you are making time each week for meaningful connections together with the people you care most about. Never take anyone for granted and make an effort to keep the connection alive and nourished.