How often do you find yourself saying yes to extra work tasks or yes to invitations for get togethers that you don’t want to attend etc…? I’m sure that you can personally think of a few times you said yes to something that deep down you didn’t really want to say yes to. Every yes that we say that we don’t actually mean can lead to stress, resentment, exhaustion and more… It’s incredibly important to remember that setting boundaries takes courage and it can even lead to a happier and calmer life aswell. I’d love to share with you 3 simple tips that will hopefully help you figure out when it’s actually beneficial to say NO.
- Think About Your Priorities – What are your prioritises? Is it your family, friends, your relationship, mental health, fitness, work, you… take some time to think about what is most important to you and what comes first. When you are faced with a decision ask yourself these simple questions to help you out… Do I have the time for this? Do I want to do it? How will this benefit me? Will it cause me extra stress? If I say yes will I likely make an excuse at a later date to get out of it? These are simple but important questions to ask yourself to help you decide on a final decision if your unsure whether to say yes or no to something.
- Spend Time With People Who Lift You Up + Limit Your Social Media Usage – Surround yourself with people who make you feel great and happy, life’s too short to waste your time with people who drag you down. If you start to notice that you dread seeing a particular person then start saying ‘no’ to their invitations and see how much happier you feel. Limiting your social media usage will help you to say no to FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) you will notice that you have more time and energy to focus on your own life without feeling like you need to share your every moment with the world. Take some time to schedule in activities that you love doing and actually do them and also take some time out for solitude, it can be really beneficial.
- Nurture Your Mental Health By Setting Boundaries – Your time is precious and you can decide how you spend it. When you set yourself healthy boundaries then you are also nurturing your mental health too. Understand what boundaries you need to make in order to feel good overall. When figuring this out ask yourself questions like; How many evenings a week do I need to spend at home? How much me time would I like for myself each week to feel refreshed? etc…
I hope that you have found these tips helpful and remember to always give yourself permission to say ‘no.’ I would love for you to share down in the comments below any other tips that you want to add which are relevant to this post. As always I love hearing all of your thoughts and opinions!