The world around us can seem to have a ‘one size fits all’ approach when it comes to beauty and many of us find ourselves feeling inadequate and flawed because of this. For my post this week I want to share with you all some advice and support which is relevant for the topic of comparing yourself to others.
Human bodies are not supposed to look the same and like mentioned above it’s hard to remember that when the approach to beauty in our society seems to be more aimed at a ‘one size fits all.’ If you are reading this you’ve probably at some point in your life had a moment where you’ve compared yourself to someone else… I myself have had my fair share of moments when I’ve compared myself to others so you’re not alone. Comparing ourselves to others may feel natural and sometimes even involuntary but it’s important to understand that we can make a choice not to judge ourselves against the appearance (or success) of others. Take a few moments to really acknowledge how you feel about your own body and ask yourself these 3 questions;
- What perceptions do you have about yourself?
- If you feel negatively in any way towards how you look then can you think of any reasons for your dissatisfaction?
- Do you remember a time when you were content with your appearance?
Though these questions may not be comfortable for you to answer, working out what you feel about your body and why you feel this way is a key step in overcoming negative self-talk. After you’ve found your answers to the questions above the next step is to reframe the thoughts that you have about yourself… this will help you to start developing a more positive mindset. Here’s a simple exercise that you can do that will help you to reframe your thoughts;
- Write down 3 physical and 3 non-physical things that you like about yourself.
- Hang/tape this list up somewhere that you look at every day (like your bedroom or bathroom mirror.)
- Repeat the list to yourself daily… twice a day is perfect! When you wake up and when you’re about to go to sleep are good moments of the day.
- If you want to take this exercise a step further then you can evaluate your negative thoughts when they appear in your mind and begin to cast them in a different light. For example; If you dislike your stretch marks then instead marvel at the way your skin has allowed you to grow.
I really hope that you find this an uplifting read and these supportive exercises can help you to start loving your own unique body. I want to end this post by saying your body does incredible things and you should pay attention to and focus on all of the ways that it can help you to move, eat, laugh and enjoy life – not how it looks whilst doing so. I also have to share these two relevant quotes which I adore; “Your story is unique and so different. It’s not worthy of comparison.” & “Don’t compare your life to others. There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time.”
Like always I would love for you to share your thoughts and opinions on this post down in the comments below as I love hearing from you all!